In life, there are two groups of people that are of the utmost importance – friends and family.
Now, you can’t choose which family you are born into. That’s based on luck and completely beyond your control. Friends, on the other hand, are a different matter entirely. You have complete freedom when it comes to choosing who you’d rather hang out with but it’s a decision that has more impact on your life than you realise. Whether it’s a positive impact or a negative impact depends entirely on if you made the right or the wrong choice.
You may or may not notice it but the longer you hang out with a certain group of friends, the more you start to think like them, act like them and develop similar interests. Consciously or subconsciously, we mimic people we want to get close to. It’s how we bond.
This is why surrounding yourself with people with a positive mindset and healthy habits will eventually make you a better person. How they live their life will influence how you live yours and you will see yourself growing to be a more wholesome person.
However, if you’re constantly around someone who grumbles and complains all day, chances are that you will start doing the same and when you get sucked into that ever whirling never-ending vortex of negativity, it is incredibly hard to pull yourself out. By the time you do get out of that rut, many of your acquaintances would have been already halfway up the success ladder while you’d have to catch up.
If you have certain goals in mind, it’s a good idea to have a circle of influence with similar aspirations. These people can inspire you to reach new heights and act as your support group as you all work together to achieve whatever it is you set your minds to do. Whether it be losing weight or training for a marathon or improving your grades in school, with the right friends by your side, you can accomplish just about anything.
Friends who don’t have the same drive as you to achieve certain successes may end up making you complacent about your goals. Some may even ridicule your efforts, encouraging you to just abandon them, which wouldn’t really get you anywhere in life now, would it?
But do you know what would get you there fast? A bigger circle of influence consisting of the right kind of people!
When you surround yourself with good people, you’ll most likely be introduced to like-minded individuals with good traits and values as well. Your circle of influence or your social circle will grow to include more people who can benefit you and help you reach your goals. But not only that, you can help them as well! That’s what a healthy friendship is all about after all, helping each other, the give and take.
I know it can be hard to cut ties with friends, toxic friends, especially if you’ve known them for a long time. But if you want your life to change, then it’s up to you to do what you think is right for the sake of yourself and your own future.